Monday, December 21, 2015

Life Just Got Too Real

Me again...the girl who said this was going to serve as a record of her journey and then vanished nearly 2 months ago.

Somehow the idea that this was on the internet, and available for public consumption, just got the best of me. I definitely would have written if this was a private forum, diary with heart shaped lock, or plain old journal....right? Probably not. The fact is, sometimes I run. When things are messy, it's easier to pretend that it isn't happening or that "it's fine." Reflection can be painful and ugly and annoying and self involved. Yes, I'm aware that it can also be healing and beautiful and eye opening but I've just been too busy. I'll figure it out eventually. It's not that big of a deal.

I'm really good at keeping up and keeping on...until that moment when I'm not. Isn't that just so much easier anyway? Several years in therapy has shown me that this probably is not the case but now that I'm "cured", I can just go on living life...right? Ugh! Okay, fine! I give in! Besides, that moment where it's fine until it's not has gotten way too close for comfort.

Reasons I quit writing:

  • I had a weekend long event for work and didn't have time
  • I ended a relationship and hadn't told my family much less a public audience
  • It was the holidays
  • I was worried about what other people would think
  • I was looking for new housing in Colorado
  • I wasn't working out and following my nutrition plan the way I wanted to and felt gross (like you can see me!)
  • I was looking for new housing in Minnesota
  • I didn't want to admit that the loose plan I had made had completely fallen apart
  • I was a hot mess...
Valid reasons:
  • .....still looking.....



Luckily, along the way, I've had these incredible people who have forced me to show up anyway. Whether I wanted to or not; whether I thought I could or not. They took me, in all my uncertainty, and said, "We'll figure it out." The other day in one of my extremely therapeutic scalding hot showers (where all great ideas come) it dawned on me that perhaps this was the story that needed to be written down. I could write about all of the things that didn't work out while I was away in Colorado or I could write about everything that went down once I got back to Minnesota but I decided before I started this journey that simply chronicling what was going on without reflection would serve no one; myself included. I take plenty of pictures on my iPhone and can basically figure out what I've done every day based on my series of selfies, random scenery photos, or assorted sibling pics. I'm not ruling out these chronicles...I mean, I've done some pretty cool shit! However, today is the day I call myself out and say, "Buck up, champ! You've just got to do the do."

I'm not going to pretend it's easy. In fact, here's a list of things I've done (TODAY) to avoid writing this post:
  • update my calendar
  • Work (It's desperate times, people!)
  • made plans with a cute boy I met at yoga
  • text encouraging words to several friends
  • book a hostel in Hawaii (Ragnar Relay, here I come!)
  • laundry


In yoga on Friday, the instructor kept talking about intention versus expectation. I thought this was an important distinction. So much of what holds us back is the expectation of a certain outcome. What if we just do the do and go in to it with the best of intentions? What if our intention is the only thing that REALLY matters? My intention was to tell a story. For better or worse. Not to give someone direction or solve world peace. So here I am. You'll be seeing more of me...the messy parts and all.


Keep your heart brave & imagination wild!

Love,
Carrie










Sunday, November 1, 2015

Welcome to Camp Ragnar: Napa Edition

I've been struggling with this post all week. Let's be honest...you don't care to hear the hour by hour account of the race and I don't know what value that would add anyway. I do feel like there some important things you learn about yourself and your team when you're tied to these people for several days in van travel and hotel stays. Here's the basic premise of the Ragnar Relay:

  • 200(ish) miles are assigned as a race course in any number of locations around the country.
  • Get a team of 12 (or 6 if you're superstars!) to commit to running anywhere from 13-23 total miles in a 24 hour period.
  • Each team member is assigned 3 legs of the race to run meeting their total distance.
  • We live out of a van and run continuously across said 200(ish) miles until we reach the final destination and finish line.
  • There is very little sleep. There is a lot of sweat. Despite best efforts to baby wipe bathe and contain sweaty clothes in ziploc bags, the van will smell like a locker room by the end. 
  • Have more fun than you ever thought possible while running and either become best friends or hate your van by the end of 36 hours. 
After completing 10 of these relays, I've recently dubbed these experiences "Camp Ragnar". (I've also come to realize what an incredible integral experience camp was to my upbringing so apparently I equate everything to camp.) But, seriously! You have no choice but to love and trust your teammates instantly. They are your people for the next 36 hours. They become your driver, your navigator, your cheerleaders, your aid station, your mom, and your therapists for the duration of the race and if you're lucky enough to make plans afterwards (like touring 4 wineries in a day), that will continue for another couple of days. Your teammates will pep you up before a long leg, bandage your wounds if you take a digger on the night run (I've done this twice!), ring the cowbell and wave the crosswalk flags in your honor every chance they get to support you along the leg, and will talk you off the ledge when you've gone on too little sleep and too many animal crackers. I've had horrific Ragnar experiences and I've had incredible Ragnar experiences. Each of these has had far less to do with how well I trained and more to do with who I was sitting next to.

In April 2014, I was blessed through the powers of the internet and a timely break up to have found a group of California runners that would take on two Minnesota girls willing to travel to SoCal to join their team. It turns out this group was exactly what I needed to turn running in to a vacation on a regular basis and we were fully equipped with plenty of mom/cheerleader/driver/therapists to rotate in and out as schedules varied and demands of home competed with our race schedule. With a core group from this team, I've completed four of these races and each time I'm in awe of the closeness of our team and how wide the arms that welcome new team members are. The MN contingency has continued to grow over the past year and a half and we now are about half of the team regardless of location. Together we've taken on SoCal, Napa, and Vegas so far and next fall we're scheduled to take on Hawaii. The adventure continues!

During each race, you can't help but learn some important things about yourself. It's always interesting to me what I come away with because it is very much a reflection of where I'm at in life. Even races I've run only months apart will reveal completely different attitudes, strengths, or "areas of growth" as my HR brain likes to refer the less pleasant lessons that arise.

I came in to this race with much less training than I intended when I signed up. I had surgery on my foot last winter and the road to recovery has been LONG. I wasn't even cleared to run until May and by that point, it had been almost a year since my injury and any sort of regular training plan. May to October should have been plenty of time but coming back from injury is frustrating. I went from competing in a half Ironman triathlon last summer to running walk/run intervals this summer. I made excuses. I skipped runs. By September, I was reliably running the 3 miles around the lake 3 days per week but the first week of October I moved to Colorado. Running at altitude is a whole new game! Over the 2 weeks that I was in Colorado before the race I did several hikes but only 1 run...of 2.6 miles....in which I wanted to cut my lungs out for most of it! Call me dramatic but when I got back within view of my car and my music cut out, I called it a sign from above that I was done! I got one run in while in San Francisco and walked MANY miles. I called it good for Ragnar training. You do actually DO need to taper for this race!

For Napa I was slotted as the first runner - I was excited to be #1!! Who wouldn't be!? I'm the only one that got to start with the crowd and my run would set the tone for at least the first few legs. (I kinda love responsibility.) My leg was set for 2.7 miles and rated "Easy". I knew I had this. I took off
a little quick, felt a spasm in my back that would annoy me the rest of the race, and kept a steady pace. I wasn't passed but I didn't pass anyone. I was pretty sure I was at the back of the pack but since it was 630am in California, the sun wasn't up and looking back didn't do me much good. I was doing fine until I hit the not so easy part of the easy leg...one big hill for the last .7 miles. I ended my first leg frustrated with my pace and fairly convinced I was screwed for the remainder of the race. Luckily, I had my cheerleaders who said I was totally middle of the pack and OMG, the view! The sun was just starting to tease us with the first pink tones. We sped over to the next exchange point to watch the sunrise and meet our next runner.
Lesson: It's 2.7 miles out of 200...no one cares about your extra 2 minutes!


My second run did not require the sexy headlamp and safety vest but was near dusk so temps were cooler and I was pretty well set for success. My nutrition plan had been on point and I had had a little down time between runs. I had my pre-workout and energy shot and was set up for 4.9 miles of pretty even terrain. I took off for my run and immediately came to a red light. Literally. I pushed the button
and waited while any momentum or adrenaline I had left my body. I took off from the light and quickly passed 2 people. These are lovingly referred to as "kills" in the Ragnar world. I was keeping a good distance behind one guy so I marked him as my pace horse. Every time he passed someone, I silently repeated the number of kills I was on until I passed that next person. Around the half way mark I was considering walking however, I saw my van up ahead with crosswalk flags waving...I was screwed. I had to keep running! I turned a corner and caught up to my pace horse. I stayed right behind him until I had no choice but to pass him. My momentum soared and my mojo was back! I saw my team and shouted that I was at 11 kills! Now, I am NOT a fast runner (10 minute miles) at this point so I know I am on the newbie/injured/sandbagger leg but I don't care. The fact is they're walking and I'm currently entering mile 4....this is the furthest I've run since last November in this same race series in Vegas. This is freaking exciting!! I finished my 4.9 miles just under the 10 minute pace I had promised my team and with a total of 15 kills. I WAS ON TOP OF THE WORLD!! In fact, I probably brought it up more times than necessary over the next several hours.
Lesson: Don't sell yourself short. Just because you haven't done it doesn't mean you can't. 

My third run was pretty uneventful. Amazing that I say this since I had another 12 kills and hit exactly on pace. I ran the whole 3.1 miles without pain or tightness which is actually pretty novel. The third leg is almost always painful regardless of how long it is or how you've trained. You haven't had more than a couple of hours sleep and it was probably on a gym floor or in the back seat of the van. Nothing is comfortable! So in that, my third run was pretty spectacular. Plus, I was DONE!
Lesson: Expectation often dictates our reality. Don't give up until it's finished.

Our team came in to finish only 20 minutes off of our originally planned finish. This is INCREDIBLE especially when you factor in that some runs took longer than expected, we went to the wrong exchange leaving our runner stranded at one point, and we had some inexperienced Ragnarians (yes, that's a thing!). Coming in even remotely close to planned time is a victory all in itself. I rarely check the race results when they come out the following day. Our team was never in it to win it but simply to experience it together. This has been the best race yet and I could not be more proud of everything that each team member put in to running their race.
Lesson: The best moment is the one you're in right now. 




Wednesday, October 21, 2015

There's a First Time for Everything: Solo Travel

Monday was one of those all around hotmess sorts of days! Packing is NEVER the top of my to do list but since I was way more excited about getting the blog and webpage going, it didn't even get ON the list. Add that in with the fact that I've been living within 10 minutes of the airport for the past 3 years and I now live a little over an hour away and it was an all out scramble! Did I mention I had forgotten to check in online for my Southwest flight and I had planned to park at a shuttle lot? Yeah, HOTMESS!

I made my flight and ended up getting the very last seat on the plane so generally, all is well. I got to San Francisco and made my way by BART to Union Square to check in to my hostel. I'm pretty directionally challenged so after picking up a transit map, checking my Google Maps, and confirming with a fellow rider that I was indeed heading the right direction, I was off! I must have still looked anxious because my new friend also made sure to tell me when to get off...thank you kind stranger!

I had done some hostel research on the plane, asked FB where I should stay and voila! I chose the downtown hostel from Hostels International to be my home for the next 4 days. Checking in to the hostel was a bit like arriving to camp. There were 2 bunks taken but they weren't there so I speculated as to who they might be and when I might have the chance to meet them. I was assigned bed 4 (Top bunk! SCORE!) and I wondered if bed 3 would arrive today. I was settling in and was feeling thankful I had my sleeping bag roll for Ragnar since it appeared the plastic coated mattress and comforter were it for bedding. I went over to Starbucks to make a couple of calls and get ready for the webinar I was hosting. When I returned, my new bunk mate had arrived...and she had very little interest in being my friend. (Dang it! School flashbacks for a minute and that story my mom won't stop telling of me coming off of the bus after my first day of kindergarten upset that not everyone liked me. Truth be told, some of them were real jerks and I didn't like them either!) I checked out the rest of the hostel - lounge area, communal kitchen, movie room. There were far more groups in the hostel than I expected, several families, a lot more older travelers than I would have thought. It was an interesting mix of ages and blends of languages throughout the hallways. Everything was pretty quiet as people were either doing their own thing or they had come with large groups already. Where was the hostel environment I had been told to embrace?? I wanted to make new friends and hear stories of where people had been; find out what they were planning for the day ahead. Instead, I met a retired teacher from Minnesota. I was pretty worn out from the lack of sleep, day of travel, time zone change and uncertainty of the day so I headed to my room to watch Mindy Project on my laptop and fall asleep...at 930pm.

I had really big plans for Tuesday - get up early and write a blog entry (OOPS!) while drinking coffee in the lounge with my fellow travelers, work for a bit, and then go for a 5 mile run to the Golden Gate bridge. I'd have a lunch in a park there and take the bus back to the hostel to shower and get ready for the day.

Reality: I tossed and turned all night (now bed 3 was NEVER going to like me!) and was awake at 4am, worked on a video project for my friends, and went back to sleep at 6am making it impossible to get out of bed before 830am....had some coffee in the lounge area and chatted running with a girl who was in town for the Nike Marathon last weekend until she checked out. I eventually got out for my run led by Siri so I would not get lost and tack on extra miles (directionally challenged!). Siri did not design the prettiest route available but it was functional and led me down to the bay. As soon as I got there, I stopped. The views of the bridge, the bay, Alcatraz were perfect! I just soaked it in for a bit and then walked back towards Fort Mason to find lunch at a cafe and figure out my bus route back to the hostel. When I headed towards the area to grab a bus, I encountered a gorgeous park and I could see Ghiridelli Square so I decided to check things out. I ended up walking awhile just taking in the bay, the piers, and the beautiful sunshine. I kept walking and happened upon Fisherman's Wharf which both excited me and instantly bummed me out that I had already eaten lunch! It was a great time of exploration, getting a little silly after being by myself for so long (yes, 12 hours with no conversation is a LONG time!), and reflection. The thing I realized is that I was having fun! It was 330pm before I decided that I probably should start heading back to the hostel and get out of my running clothes and join the world of the showered and dressed. By this point I was only about 1.5 miles from my hostel so I decided to walk back and see what else I could take in. I hit Lombard street, found a few coffee shops/restaurants that looked interesting, and felt a little less challenged by my surroundings. I was pretty much ready to take on the world! Here's a recap of my day:

























Monday, October 19, 2015

OH.MY.GOD! I'm DOING it!

This is supposed to be the entry where I share with you who I am and why I'm doing this. I would rather just jump in. While it's interesting that I come am the oldest in a large family, left corporate America earlier this year, relocated from MN to CO a couple of weeks ago and still don't know where I'm living, I couldn't even tell you what the story is there. I'm on a journey called life and it's new. I'm generally a planner but given that I am not great at plan B, I'm stretching this muscle. I'm going to figure out what life requires and I'm going to do my best to navigate it. It likely will not be graceful. It will not always be pretty. It should allow for some entertainment and through this journey, I'm hoping to learn to laugh at myself a bit more.

The other day (my third in Colorado) I was asked to demonstrate head stands in yoga class. I had that initial thought of, "Yay! He picked me!" to "WTH!? Why did he pick me!?" I don't think I've done an unassisted headstand since I was 6!! So obviously, I played it cool. (I'm so not cool.) With his instruction and spotting, I did what was asked and I did not embarrass myself. #winning

I've suddenly reached this point - this point where I look at all those things that other people were doing in life that were SO cool and I realize that this IS my life! It's like I blinked and stepped in to someone else's world. Climbing mountains, solo travel, staying in hostels, figuring out life as it happens....I never even DREAMED of doing these things because it was so far outside of my comfort zone. I didn't dream about them because they were never going to happen! I set goals for things that were attainable. They involved job applications or annual reviews, race training plans, and a budget on mint.com. 


I now hike mountains and sometimes I lead. (Climbing will come later.) I am flying in to SFO tomorrow afternoon for what was supposed to be a fun couple of days with a girlfriend before we met up with the rest of our Ragnar Relay team for the race in Napa this weekend. Life happened. Plans changed. I am still flying in to SFO tomorrow but I am staying in a hostel (my first!) and exploring the city for 3 days on my own. My hostel is not booked but I have researched a couple and plan to make my selection on the flight tomorrow. THIS IS MY LIFE!  Now, remember....I am the oldest child. I have been mostly responsible up until this point but this news will likely send my mom in to a small panic attack when she reads this and my cell phone will likely ring. Truthfully, I've had several of my own minor panic attacks over this whole situation but my roomie has stayed in hostels all over the world and she assures me she has yet to have a miserable time, contract an infectious disease in the shared showers, or be taken hostage by fellow travelers so I'm staying positive. 

This is already much longer than I anticipated but I'm hoping you'll bear with me as I embark on this journey of life in a new way, write from stream of consciousness, and experience the highs and lows of transition and growing in to who I was meant to become. 

Keep your heart brave & your imagination wild!

Love,

Carrie